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Four Keys to Raising a Preteen

9/30/2018

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Elizabeth & Daniel, Jr. at Natural Bridge State Resort Park
This month Elizabeth turned 11 - the preteen years are 11 & 12 years old. This is 5th & 6th grade.

Preteen years can be somewhat awkward - you're too old for elementary school, yet not quite a teenager. Here are 4 keys I've learned from raising one, and now two preteens.

1). Avoid the temptation to buy your preteen a cell phone. Their friends have them, they ask for one for Christmas, their birthday, Valentine's Day, from the tooth fairy. Cell phones rob children of their childhood. We still have a landline, that's the children's phone.

2). Preteens need to stay busy. Elizabeth participates in gymnastics, jumps on the trampoline and lives at church. Preteens get bored - very fast. They need to play outside, participate in sports, read books, and be very involved in church. If you let them, they'll sit in front of video games, TV and play on the phone. They'll have the rest of their lives for a phone.

3). Give them responsibility. Unload the dishwasher, fold clothes, vacuum, babysit, take care of the cat - chores should be expected.

4). Attitudes have consequences. The average preteen is smarter than you, knows more than you, and wants to make their own decisions. A bad attitude is the same as disobedience. The 5th commandment says, "Honor your father and your mother." Honor includes your attitude.

Rules and structure are always your friend. Make the preteen years your child's best years - they're still children.

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5 Secrets to a Successful Preteen Ministry

11/28/2012

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Does your church have a Preteen Ministry? Preteens are 11 and 12 year olds - 5th & 6th graders. Some people call them Tweens - too old for elementary ministry, but a little young for the youth group. This is one of the most important ages in a child's spiritual growth - a church can't clump them with younger children or teenagers.

Here are 5 Secrets to a Successful Preteen Ministry:

1.) You must involve their parents. A 12 year old will want you to believe they're in high school - but they're in 6th grade. A teacher/minister must communicate with mom & dad what's going on. For example, a monthly newsletter, Facebook group for preteen parents, a Googlegroup for preteen parents, or a bulk text message lets mom and dad know what's going on, how they can be involved and events coming up for their child to attend. You cannot rely on the preteens to tell their parents what's happening.

2.) Allow preteens the opportunity to lead. Let them own the ministry - create a cool name (Infusion, Switch, Becoming), they should say the prayers, decorate the room, read the Scripture, give a testimony, lead worship, start the video, plan mission projects, set-up and take-down, clean-up).

3.) Programming should be cutting edge. Every 6th grader I know is on Facebook, Twitter, and carries an iPhone. They don't want to be read a children's picture Bible. Make sure the curriculum/lesson is geared towards 11 & 12 year olds and is up-to-date.

4.) Preteen ministry must be active, fast-paced. If you have 1 hour on Wednesday nights to plan for Preteens, here's a good schedule: Welcome/Hang-out (5 minutes), Game (10 minutes), Testimony/Ministry opportunity at school (5 minutes), Video clip about the lesson (5 minutes), Lesson (25 minutes), Prayer requests (5 minutes), Junk food (5 minutes). You need to come to class over-prepared with multiple changes throughout the hour.

5.) Plan outings and mission projects exclusively for preteens. Do not allow other ages to attend, especially younger children. For example, preteens can have a separate VBS class, drama team, mission projects, Preteen Sunday (a special Sunday when the entire service is devoted to them), Preteen Conference, and the Annual Preteen Kickball Tournament (the most favorite game of all 5th & 6th graders).

Preteen Resources:

LifeWay Preteens
PreteenMinistry.net
Preteen Lauchables
Which Bible Should You Buy your Preteen or Teenager?
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