Obviously when a child grows older they earn more freedom - but they're not ready to be treated like they're 25 when they're 15.
Your children needs you the most in middle school, high school and the transition to college. Don't pull back and believe the lie, "He's an adult when he's 18."
Discipline is more than punishing your kids. It's establishing an environment with these 4 keys:
1). Structure. Routines are good. They keep you in daily Bible study, keep you at church on Sundays, and keep you going to bed and getting up at the same hour. Your teenagers shouldn't live a "whatever" lifestyle - waiting on a text from a friend for something fun and free to cure their boredom. Structure also improves your teenagers' grades.
2). Consistency. If you threaten to take away their phone for not taking out the trash when asked, and they wrote you off - your teen's phone should be confiscated. Consistency shows you're serious. If you don't come through on your word, you become a noise-maker to your daughter. Power with no punch.
3). Love. You must have the best interests for your teenager. They don't always know their best interests. Two 16 year olds shouldn't be riding around Newnan at 1 a.m. on a date in his truck. They're not doing Bible study at 1 a.m. You must lovingly tell your son, "no." You're not a "yes man," rather his dad.
4). Consequences. She said she was going over to her best friend's - but ended up at her boyfriends'...Your teenager will lie to you - and you respond with consequences. There goes the phone, the Xbox, the car, the basketball team - you take away what they love the most. Remember, it's possible to grow up without a phone - and no one uses a phone, "only for emergencies."
Avoid using church as a consequence. Possibly no Winter Jam or no youth softball - but preventing your daughter to worship and hear the Word ultimately hinders their developing relationship with Christ.
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