I told our Wednesday Night Bible Study class last night (it was all men) I was writing a blog post on the lessons learned from 10 years of marriage and they said there's only one lesson, "Sherri says!" Here are 5 lessons I've learned in 10 years:
1.) Most disagreements will be over money - specifically how much money you spend each month. We drink organic milk - it costs alot - I'm still not sold on its benefits - there's been "disagreements" over which milk to buy from Wal-Mart...I've learned its not a battle worth fighting.
2). Your spouse needs access to your email, Twitter, Facebook, text and phone records. Secrecy breeds sin. Sherri has access to every account that requires a password.
3). You both should want to attend the same church together. If you have a daily quiet time and he doesn't, if you want to attend Sunday School and she doesn't or if you want to help with VBS and he believes its too time consuming - a difference in spiritual maturity will create problems. 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns believers about this. Husband and wife must be growing in the Lord together.
4). You must define household responsibilities. I know my "jobs" at the house - vacuuming, dishes, folding laundry and the trash. If you haven't established who does what at your home - you'll begin believing your spouse is lazy.
5). Have a regular "date night" without children. If we go to a restaurant with three children - its actually more work for me than eating at home. Sherri and I go out to dinner (without children) at least monthly - these are some of our favorite times together.