God has high standards for His followers. One of the outward signs that you're saved is if you obey His teachings. The 7th commandment in Exodus 20:14 is, "Do not commit adultery."
Jesus took this teaching a step further, by stating that married men should not be thinking about other women (Matthew 5:27-30). God knows if you're married to one woman, yet longing for another.
Adultery is a temptation for any marriage, and if a married man doesn't have safeguards in place, other women can easily enter. Here are 5 signs that you're about to have an affair:
1). Texting. Why would a married man need to text another woman? The problem with texting, compared to other communication, is how quickly the conversation can turn sexual. There's a reason we have the word, "sexting." Wikipedia says 33% of young adults do this.
With camera phones, its too easy to take inappropriate pictures and text them to guys to see their response. You must have open access to your spouse's cell phone.
2). Hugs, back and shoulder rubs. A married man needs to keep his hands to himself. A touchy man could have ulterior motives - he's looking to how you'll respond. Married ladies should purposely avoid touchy men - surround yourself in a group or walk away when he's coming.
3). The conversation is too personal. If you're talking with another man about feelings, relationship issues, troubles, sexual topics or he's giving too many compliments or gifts - you've crossed a boundary. Even worse, if you don't tell your husband what you're talking about with this other man, your conversation is now a secret. Affairs thrive in secrecy.
4). You "cross paths" with your friend. She's always walking down the hall you work on. She stops by your office for no reason - or to ask a "question." If you're crossing paths with someone a little too frequently, another woman is calling to "check on you," or she shows an unexpected interest in your life - these are all red flags.
5). People from your past reappear. Old boyfriends and former guy friends reconnecting with you is dangerous. It brings back memories and thoughts of, "What if..." If you're Facebooking with old girlfriends, the temptation will be to pick-up where you left off.
Jesus took this teaching a step further, by stating that married men should not be thinking about other women (Matthew 5:27-30). God knows if you're married to one woman, yet longing for another.
Adultery is a temptation for any marriage, and if a married man doesn't have safeguards in place, other women can easily enter. Here are 5 signs that you're about to have an affair:
1). Texting. Why would a married man need to text another woman? The problem with texting, compared to other communication, is how quickly the conversation can turn sexual. There's a reason we have the word, "sexting." Wikipedia says 33% of young adults do this.
With camera phones, its too easy to take inappropriate pictures and text them to guys to see their response. You must have open access to your spouse's cell phone.
2). Hugs, back and shoulder rubs. A married man needs to keep his hands to himself. A touchy man could have ulterior motives - he's looking to how you'll respond. Married ladies should purposely avoid touchy men - surround yourself in a group or walk away when he's coming.
3). The conversation is too personal. If you're talking with another man about feelings, relationship issues, troubles, sexual topics or he's giving too many compliments or gifts - you've crossed a boundary. Even worse, if you don't tell your husband what you're talking about with this other man, your conversation is now a secret. Affairs thrive in secrecy.
4). You "cross paths" with your friend. She's always walking down the hall you work on. She stops by your office for no reason - or to ask a "question." If you're crossing paths with someone a little too frequently, another woman is calling to "check on you," or she shows an unexpected interest in your life - these are all red flags.
5). People from your past reappear. Old boyfriends and former guy friends reconnecting with you is dangerous. It brings back memories and thoughts of, "What if..." If you're Facebooking with old girlfriends, the temptation will be to pick-up where you left off.
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